At the car, he opened the door for her in a gentlemanly way.
But instead of helping her into the wagon in the same gentlemanly manner, he grabbed her by the collar and waistband and dumped her in the front of the wagon.
That's the gentlemanly thing to do.
In all the countries through which he travelled his memory is cherished by the native tribes who, almost without exception, treated Livingstone as a superior being; his treatment of them was always tender, gentle and gentlemanly.
Was that it – pretty words and gentlemanly deeds?