Do you feel up to it?
She didn't feel up to it.
You feel up to it?
If you feel up to the challenge, you might also think about adopting a spayed/neutered kitten from a shelter to provide Smokey with a new companion to further distract him from his old routine.
Some people are not in the mood to have sex when stressed; however, if you feel up to it, it could greatly reduce your stress levels.