He vs. Him Grammar Rules Simplified

, Staff Writer
Updated October 28, 2021
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Having a hard time deciding whether to use he or him? Knowing which pronoun to use isn’t as hard as you think once you break down the grammar rules. After you learn the difference, you'll never question how he or him should be used in a sentence again.

Difference Between He and Him

Is it “he went” or “him went”? There is only one clear winner. To learn who that winner is, you need to first understand pronouns. Pronouns are used to replace nouns to give sentences a little variety and to avoid unnecessary repetition. They are like adding a new ingredient to your sundae: they spice it up. It would be boring if Tim always did everything all the time. Rather than Tim, you could say he did something.

To make it even more complicated, pronouns come in different forms. For today, you’ll just focus on the male third-person pronouns “he” and “him.”


When to Choose He

In the world of grammar, he is a singular third-person male pronoun. He is used to replace the male subject of the sentence: it functions as a subject pronoun. This might sound confusing, but it is actually quite simple. Consider these example sentences:

  • Tommy is going to school.
    He is going to school.
  • The man is going to take his car to work.
    He is going to take his car to work.
  • Duke needs to go outside.
    He needs to go outside.
  • Billy didn’t say that.
    He didn’t say that.
  • What was Darrell thinking?
    What was he thinking?
  • Does Arham want some tea?
    Does he want some tea?

As you can see, he can replace the masculine subject of the sentence. Rather than saying Tommy or Duke, you can just say he. This avoids repetition and gives variety to your sentences. This also works if you have named the subject of the sentence once and want to avoid repetition.

For example:

  • Tommy doesn’t lie, so he must be right.
  • I listened to William because he is always truthful.
  • Adam keeps practicing so he can join the band.
  • Darnyle is going, so he can drive us.

The pronoun he takes the place of the second subject to avoid repetitive sentences like, “Tommy doesn’t lie, so Tommy must be right.”


Use of He for Unknown

There are times when you don’t know if a dog, cat, gerbil, or baby is male or female. In these instances, a person might use he as a generic term. For example, if the police don’t know the gender of a criminal and they can’t avoid using a singular pronoun, they might say:

You don’t need to worry; he will be caught.

While the police don’t know if the person is a male, they’re using he as a generic term. However, given the changing times of grammar and gender inclusiveness, it is always best to try to rewrite a sentence to avoid using the generic he if possible.

Using they as a gender neutral singular pronoun is becoming more common as well. In the case of non-human subjects, it can also be appropriate. For example, "I like that cat, because it is friendly."


Using Him in Sentences

Where there is a he, there is a him. Much like he, him is also a third-person masculine pronoun. However, him is an object pronoun for the subject pronoun he. Sound confusing? Don't worry, it will get clearer.

An object pronoun is not the subject of the sentence, but instead it is in some way affected by the subject either directly or indirectly. The object receives the action of the verb. It is also used after a preposition. See how the object pronoun him works in this sentence:

Cameron saw him.

In this sentence, Cameron is the subject, saw is the verb and him is the singular object pronoun. Look at a few more examples.

  • I wanted to meet him.
  • She wanted to tell him.
  • Did you see him in the hallway?
  • Molly heard him.
  • I babysit him all the time.
  • He met him at the cafe.
  • Are you sure it was him?

Him can also be used after a preposition in a sentence. For example:

  • I came in after him.
  • Did you look for him under the table?
  • I can do that for him.
  • I don’t want to do that for him.
  • You can’t put that near him.
  • They came to him at the meeting.
  • We can’t go without him; he’s driving us back.
  • We choose Molly instead of him.

That wasn’t as hard as you thought. Now, it is time to add a little more difficulty by exploring how he and him are used with and.


Choosing He or Him With And

One of the most confusing areas of pronoun usage is with and. Even advanced English users can still have an issue when it comes to who goes first with and. A fun memory trick is to "let your friends go first." Therefore, him and he will come before me or I.

  • He and I are going to the movies. (subject form)
  • She wanted to go with him and me to the store. (object form)
  • John invited him and me to the store. (object form)
  • He and I will meet at the gym. (subject form)

If you remember to let your friends go first, you’ve got this in the bag. And, if you're confused about whether to use him or he in these sentences, remember that he and I can be replaced by we, whereas him and me can be replaced by us. So, the above four sentences could be rewritten as:

  • We are going to the movies.
  • She wanted to go with us to the store.
  • John invited us to the store.
  • We will meet at the gym.

When to Use He or Him

Now that you’ve read all the rules, you definitely know that “he went” is correct and not "him went." To round out your education, you might want to explore she vs. her examples. It’s important to learn all sides when it comes to pronouns.