Bridezilla - According to a report on the John Tesh Radio Show it is the "name for women who have total control over the planning of their wedding." John Tesh also mentioned that thre is now the word "groomzilla" too for a groom with these characteristics.  

I noticed on the internet, however, that some people consider ‘bridzezilla’  an offensive term:

http://www.indiebride.com/essays/macadam/index.html

Bridezilla is obiously a blend or portmanteau word in the same league as words like brunch (breakfast + lunch), scrunch (squeeze + crunch) robocop (robot + cop), dolphinarium (dolphin + aquarium) and Spanglish (Spanish + English).  :)

It’s funny you should mention this today of all days.  Yesterday I was watching Everybody Loves Raymond and that was the topic of the show: Ray was teaching his brother how he should botch up the wedding invitations so his wife would step in, feel important and never ask him to do anything anymore.

Brazilian dude

I think I would consider it an offensive term if it was used about me or someone I loved

The "zilla" part of the compound refers of course to "Godzilla", with the concomitant mental images of trampling, death and destruction.

The term "Bridezilla" conjures up someone determined to have their own way at any cost, regardless of whose feelings they hurt.  I can’t imagine it being used in any complimentary sense. :-(

Azh

Writers Chris Pappas and Mike Brunier sold their movie script "Bridezilla" to Disney, indicating the harmless, fun, silly nature of the farcical concept. The movie is about a recently engaged couple that gets consumed by the wedding-planning culture. The pressure of creating the perfect day tests their commitment to each other.
The term is just funny, not meant to be demeaning. If women take offence, though, men should be sensitve to that and either avoid using the word, or try to keep it in a teasing context. Anyone who has planned a wedding can identify with the often-trampled groom. Of course, the bride doesn’t turn into a destructive, obsessed monster. She is just nervous. It is important to the bride to try to make her fairy-tale wedding come true; acculturation having created such dreams. Is it wrong to have dreams? A wise groom will calm the bride, be very patient, and stay out of the way when required.
My bride (now ex), and bride-to-be friends laughed at themselves when I lightened things up. Wedding planning is such a mirthful time!
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K

You’re wise.

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Male persons are really not welcome at nearly any time of this wildly emotional time, only tolerated, mostly because they tend to be controlling, too many strong flavors in this soup and more explosions ensue.

Come to think of that, I don’t think guys care about that, I know I don’t.  We just want to cut through the crap and go on with the show, if you know what I’m saying.

Brazilian dude

Unfortunately not.  :(

Brazilian dude

[quote author=Katy link=board=what;num=1130567450;start=0#7 date=10/29/05 at 11:52:44]... men want simplicity.

K, you are one of the rare women who understand men. Bravo!

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Still, a lot of women who have been married never really understood/accepted men for what they are deep down: instinct-driven, taciturn, hiding feeleings (again due to acculturation), etc.

V

Aren’t they standard issue?

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[quote author=Katy link=board=what;num=1130567450;start=0#14 date=10/29/05 at 17:15:18]S(tuff)ING?

Katy, come on now, you know this is a family show.

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Everyone knows that fairy tales only exist in the mind, yet so many women try to make their wedding into a fairy tale anyway.  This is a mistake, but it’s part of what makes us human.

Men are not really "controlling" during this time, even though they may do things that seem to be interfering with the plans of the bride or her mother.  Instead, they are attempting to be helpful.  But women don’t want to be helped during this time, especially by a man, and most men never get that.  The women want to be in control, period; the men are only useful inasmuch as they do as they are told and otherwise stay out of the way.

It’s actually a very clear introduction to what marriage is all about.

-Tim

[quote author=Katy link=board=what;num=1130567450;start=15#17 date=10/29/05 at 19:37:57]...men still think of themselves as king, and their wife as property…

Please substitute "Queen" for "property".

[quote author=Katy link=board=what;num=1130567450;start=15#17 date=10/29/05 at 19:37:57]...husband has his fantasies of a footstool wife…

Please substitute "Jerk" for "husband".

[quote author=Katy link=board=what;num=1130567450;start=15#17 date=10/29/05 at 19:37:57]...Stepford wives are not so farfetched…

If I wanted a Stepford wife, I’d go here:
http://www.realdoll.com/dolls.asp

[quote author=Katy link=board=what;num=1130567450;start=15#17 date=10/29/05 at 19:37:57]...The current crop of wives…

What is this, the Matix?

[quote author=Katy link=board=what;num=1130567450;start=15#17 date=10/29/05 at 19:37:57]... (feminazis in particular)...

Now THAT’s, um, not very PC! LOL

[quote author=Katy link=board=what;num=1130567450;start=15#17 date=10/29/05 at 19:37:57]... how to circumvent a man’s natural tendancies to at least get some peace

Are you sure that you ALWAYS want to circumvent our natural tendencies? LOL

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OK

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The "feminazi" remark bothered me, too, Katy. That term was coined by a person who doesn’t strike me as being very concerned about whether married women are well-treated by their husbands. Moreover, outspoken feminists (male as well as female) do decry stereotyped roles that lead to unnecessary problems for both parties.

The equation of a person who thinks that men and women should be treated with equal respect to a jack-booted stormstrooper intent on destruction of the weak, may be amusing to puerile mentalities who hate and fear women, but I don’t think that really describes you. And being surprised that a woman with the fortitude to separate from unacceptable spouses would use such as term is not enforcing "PC" standards. It’s just—surprise. The horror of real atrocities is muted, both for the speaker and for an uncritical aduience, when their names or actions are "comically" applied to unrelated—and sometimes opposite—situations.

This was a reflection on language. What is your reaction?
-gailr

There’s another word to describe the airport lady… wait… what is it again?

UGH! It’s on the tip of my tongue…

I think it starts with a "B"...

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